“It takes a village to raise a child” says Stacey Snider CEO of Dreamworks movie studio. There is nothing wrong with having help while raising a child. Parents need time to recharge and should take a break. It’s ok to have a nanny care for your children. It’s ok to have a career. Stacey Snider wouldn’t be CEO of Dreamworks without the help she has had in raising her own children. Stacey talked a bit about the help she had with her children.
“Well, you know, I have two daughters. I have a 12 year old and a 14 year old. I first went to Universal after Katie had been born. She had just been born and then I had Natalie two and a half years later…….So I relied on women to help me raise the kids and I’m a pretty good hands on get home, get your butt home mom. But I’ve always felt like more love is good. More people that know them, that love them, you know, I know women who feel threatened by that. That feel that they don’t want — that’s a person that works for me. I feel like Jody, who’s the woman who’s been with us for 12 years, that Jody and my husband and I have raised the girls together.”
“She’s the boss when I’m not there and our values are comparable and she’s leaving us this year. So, you know, it’s funny my big girl graduated from eight grade yesterday and they had that, you know, as only teenagers get. I’m never gonna see my friends again and, all the crying and then she got home and she saw Jody and she said, you’re leaving me too. How can you leave me?”
“You just want your kids to have that love and that wisdom and you’re grateful to the women the help. It takes a village. My mom passed away when I was 17 so I used to get in bed with the night nurse that helped me when the kids were young and I would sleep with her all night. My husband was in the other room. it would be me and her and the baby and, you know, she got me through such a scary time that I just was attached like a little, you know, a little kangaroo. I didn’t want to let her leave.”
For me, hearing Stacey Snider speak about having help was refreshing. Being a blogger sometimes feels like a full time job. Plus the kids are there in my lap and any mother knows that kids are a full time job two, so I have have two full time jobs. I’m terrified of asking for help and constantly worried about the guild I would feel for leaving them with someone else. I never once considered the love they would get from one other person in their life.
In the movie The Help, it was quite obvious how the help really cared for the children. It was so sad to see how the mother’s instead of being grateful for all the help they received were vicious and cruel just because the color of their skin was different. These women were even raised by the help they hired to take care of their own children. Yet, once they were a young adult they suddenly decided that their toilet paper was too good for their help.
Stacy said, “Tate Taylor, who wrote the adaptation The Help and directed it grew up with Kathryn (the author) in Jackson, Mississippi and it’s a kind of great story because they were best friends growing up both raised by single moms, both raised by African American women who were like their moms and both trying to make it in their respective careers” Together they brought a realism to the movie, and Tate wouldn’t let any studio tell him how the movie should be done. We all need help in our lives and I feel that even though The Help is more about how terrible these women were, and how Aibileen and Skeeter were able to rise above their issues, I still walked away from my experience knowing that it’s ok to have help. We should remember to love our help the same way they love and care for our children.
Thank you to Disney and Dreamworks for the hotel stay and transportation to Hollywood to watch The Help.