Having two kids I’m trying to explain:
You have the exact same snack
You have the exact same amount
Look there are four cups for you and four cups for your brother
This is an equal stack of Legos you have plenty to play with.
I’m going to be saying this statement for the next 20 years, you have the same amount your sister does, you have the same amount your brother does. It’s equal I promise. I found myself saying that today. She has no idea.
I know growing up my stepmom was always trying to make sure everything was equal. She was trying to make up for my stepsister’s dead beat dad. So all I saw was the unequal affection that my step sister was getting. I never saw what was going on while I was visiting my mom. I never saw how hurt my step sister was that I got to go visit my other parent and she didn’t. So maybe no matter how hard I try to get my children to understand that I am trying as hard as I can to make things equal, they will never understand until they have children of their own.
It’s the darn red cups I gave them to play with today. My daughter was playing with her crayons at the table and my son wanted something so I gave him four plastic red cups to play with, well as soon as my daughter saw this she wanted them. I had a COSTCO size bag of them so I gave her four cups to play with. The rest of the afternoon it was you both have enough cups.
I did get a little giggle though when I saw that my husband had the same issue with them. He took four of the cups away from one of them and gave them to the other. I mean it’s equal right?
My lap is another item they fight over constantly. Absolutely all the time they fight over my lap. One of them comes over and sits in my lat we’re cuddling and then jealousy spouts it’s evil head. Next thing I know I have two kids pushing each other and crying in my lap. I just want to get up and leave both of them there to duke it out. But I tell them there is plenty of me to share and try to calm them down. Like I said above, I have the next 20 years to listen to this argument with them both and I better love every minute of it.