Did you take your husband’s last name? Over at Jen and Barb, Mom Life, Jen and Barb are discussing this hot topic. After watching the video I felt insulted that Barb said changing your last name is declaring that I need a man in my life. You have to watch the video and then weight in with your response. How do you feel about your last name and did it change who you are?
Here is part of my response……
Taking your husband’s last name is a personal choice. You have to do what’s right for you. I grew up in a very traditional family where the father is the leader of the family and has the final say. At the same time, I was raised to be very independent and to think for myself and to make sure my opinion was heard. My stepmother raised us girls to have the desire to take care of ourselves. I went off to college, lived on my own and took care of every expense myself. I can be on my own, I know this about myself.
I took my husband’s last name and I’m not wimpy and I didn’t lose my identity by changing it. I haven’t lost my voice either. My husband and I make decisions together. My name doesn’t identify me it never did. I define myself. I actually never even considered not taking my husband’s name. As part of taking a husband I took his name, I believe that a man and woman become one unit, we both bring different things to the union but we are both still ourselves. We grow and change over the years and we learn how to understand our differences. A name doesn’t change any of that. I don’t even really see what the big deal is in changing your last name.
For the rest of my take on taking my husband’s last name check it out.
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